Sunday, October 25, 2009

A Response to Khid iLLmatic...

Hello all…I know I’ve been slacking for the past day or two but I’m back and have something interesting to share. While checking one of the few blogs I follow, I stopped at “Khid iLLmatic’s” blog and his latest entry really struck me. It’s a response and reflection on the video by Gnarls Barkley, “Who’s Gonna’ Save My Soul.” I had never seen this video before and it was definitely thought provoking to say the least.

I’d suggest you watch the video and then continue reading my response to Khid and the video in general now…

Crazy right?? I loved it though because it's so real. Now, in response to Khid, there are some "girls" (and I call them girls because they act as such) who do not know how to love or be loved and this goes for "boys" as well. Some people are incapable of recognizing real love or a genuine soul, even when he or she is staring them in the face, arms open wide, ready to give and love them in a way that’s divinely taught.

This video would have the same impact if the roles where reversed simply because both sexes experience this type of debilitating heart ache at some point in their life. Matters of the heart are always the toughest to deal with; however, they are also the ones that shape our characters and define how we will allow others to treat us. The important thing is to not shut off and be cold-hearted because the day you do that, you could be missing out on that "Woman" or "Man" that God has created and designed just to love you.

I can speak first hand about being a bitter female. Mad at the world and all the stupid little boys in it. I was hurt, rejected, cheated on, and mistreated in relationship after relationship. I took trust issues into every new relationship, sabotaging them before they ever had a real chance. I had to learn that building up walls and booby-traps was childish. It was my way of, not only “protecting myself,” but it was my way of running from the truth and being afraid to face and question what it is I may have been doing to cause some of these emotional wounds. I had to ask myself if I was naïve. I had to check some insecurities that I never dealt with. I had to look at myself and love me first (in and out) before I expected and demanded someone else to.

Now don't get me wrong, it’s important to protect yourself from people with ill intentions or those who do not have your best in mind. But to enter every interaction and future relationship with “passive aggressive contentiousness” is insane and self-destructive. What would be the purpose of getting into a relationship in the first place if you feel that destruction and heartbreak is inevitable? Love makes life worth living. It’s what got Jesus here on earth. “For God so LOVED the world that he gave his ONLY begotten son…” John 3:16 (look it up). Without love, this world can and at times is a cold and lonely place.

What I’ve learned is that, in those times of solitude, one is able to find him/herself and become emotionally stable so that when the time comes, he/she is ready to love with arms wide open. To love as God does, with no limits. To give of yourself and your heart because you never know when you’ll find that one person who makes you forget about all the others, the one who makes loving easy, the one who puts a smile on your face just thinking about them or the next time you’ll see him/her.

I urge all of my fellow “heartless, heartbroken, or even cold-hearted” people to let it go. Stop holding on to the resentment of a past hurt or love, let go of all the negativity and free yourself from the debilitating power of bitterness. Don’t be afraid to love again because it’s the journey one takes in finding love that makes it all worthwhile….how else are you to know what real love is unless you’ve experienced some bootleg ones??

As always, I want to hear from those of you reading and/or following so drop a line and tell me what you thought about the video. Have a great night….and in the words of Mr. Don Cornelius: “LOVE, PEACE, and SOUUULLLLL” LoL…


Handsomemanson said...

wow thank thank thank you i needed that. that was so real & i agree 100%. I know this process will take time its just supa hard cuz not only did she off me after 5 yrs. & its bad enough that the guy has her body but he must have her mind cuz I havent heard from her in weeks. all I think about is how she gased me & said she was going to fly me out to ATL on her bday on the 28th & then come bck 2 Okla (That where I go 2 school Langston University its & HBCU)& we was gonna be like we once was but she lied & called me one night & told me she slept with dude & left me confused & in the cold. The fuked up thing about it was she told me she loved me just two days ago before she broke the news & she told me not to worry about that guy that he was nobody... lol but yo Im telling you this story & I dnt even know you but hey it's a pretty good story lol, but thank you again so much